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Media Updates – Sharing New Content and Features

Media Updates – Sharing New Content and Features

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It’s been a while since I’ve taken time to share some of the things I’m doing. Fatherhood has changed the way I work and my ability to focus on “me” is in a bit of flux. Slowly but surely I’m reestablishing my digital presence, getting my creative juices flowing and putting content out into new spaces. It feel’s good. I view 2014 as a pivotal year. It was in that year that I covered my largest events, wrote my biggest (at the time) article

Thinking back a bit I view 2014 as a pivotal year. It was in that year that I covered my largest events, wrote my biggest (at the time) article and landed my first client as a consultant. I’m using that year as a reference point for the things that worked for me professionally and how to implement them within my new reality.  That’s within the social media industry and beyond.

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On the writing side of things, I’ve had a few recent pieces published via Complex. Sports connects to folks on so my levels so it’s cool to share thoughts within that space.  Here are mentions from my Knicks and Warriors stories.

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I’m also looking to bring a new outlook on Fatherhood to the forefront. Classic Daddy narratives often paint us in a position of voiceless, emotionless workers. As more dads are taking on the day-to-day hands-on duties of parenting in addition to work, it needs to be understood and respected that we are just as invested in the lives of our kids as anyone else.

In the last week, I’ve been featured by a couple of pro daddy platforms. It’s all about Max and whatever I need to do to keep him smiling.

Good Afternoon everyone👋😍 Meet @NightFall914 & his handsome son Max. This great guy knows the meaning of happiness. You can clearly see his efforts are well received in the joy his son has. A true man, a great father and positive role model. Let’s show him a warm welcome for being such a great Father on his journey as a father. I am proud of you @NightFall914 continue to be the amazing man you are. God has blessed you brother. Congratulations once again!!! Welcome to Fatherhood 👍😎 #FatherRights #DadCaresToo #DailyMessage #DailyInspiration #SingleDadLife4Ever #Daddy #Son #Daughter #Mommy #SingleDadLife #MommyLife #FathersWithoutBorders #ProudFatherOfALittleGirl #ProudParents #Postivevibes #PositiveChanges #SharedMoments #NewParents #FatherHood #ParentHood #Parenting

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The other feature was a great Q & A interview with DadofDivas. This is something I really want to build one going forward.

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Snippet from Dad of Divas Interview Feature

It’s a new world for me in many ways but with a new motivation to press forward, I’m excited about the future. Also as I have reached and helped many of my readers, I ask those of you viewing this to please reach back to me if you see something that you think I could a match for. Online features, writing, public speaking. I’m wide open to opportunity.

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Is Discipline By Digital Embarrassment Solid Parenting?

Is Discipline By Digital Embarrassment Solid Parenting?

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The law of the land was very simple when I was a kid. Behave, do your school work and don’t make a spectacle of yourself. I was never a problem child but at some points a kid is going to act up and push the limits and when that happened I knew what was coming. “Just wait ’til your Father gets home” was a reality in my household. Beatings were a last level of punishment but never done in excess. Spare the rod spoil the child may seem like “abuse” to some these days but please believe I’d take that any day of the week over the antics that many parents are applying today.

It’s often said that kids are being given access to social media at too young an age. Consequently they aren’t grown enough to fully understand the ramifications from their actions but that applies to many of these “parents” as well. Many adults are taking punishment of their kids to a new level by posting said discipline on the internet. I get that idea of trying to teach them a lesson where they interact but there is a crucial flaw in this plan. When I was bad I was punished within the confines of my home. These were teachable private moments between myself and my family. My parents would always talk to me afterwards to make sure there was understanding as to what was done and why. I could not imagine what my growth process would have been like if my punishments were publicized. The most that might happen is being grounded and having to tell your immediate friends you can’t come outside.

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The true issue is that social media has NO RULES you are creating a vulnerable situation that will now live forever. In addition to that, posting a crazy hair cut, a beating or whatever punishment is essentially handing it over to others to do with as they see fit. Bullying was always an issue of growing up but it seems that the digital firepower that social media can become pushes many over the limit. Why add to that? Discipline should match the violation but even when you as the parent return things to normal who says that your child’s peers will do the same. Your brilliant idea to publicly shame your child may create an going social issue that lingers long after you thought the lesson was learned. What then? What do you do once your “genius” parenting move goes viral and a grade school kid can’t function socially because thousands of people are laughing at him?

Simply put its massive overkill. Social media has become so ingrained within the practices of some folk that they simply do not know how to do anything that does not have a “Let me show you” element to it. The time between think and post seems to be decreasing. For many the process actually takes place in reverse with the action of posting then being followed up with thought on what was just done. We need our parents out there to be smarter. This is exposing your kids. It is teaching them that when someone does something they don’t like it is an acceptable act to seek public embarrassment of that person. That is what leads to boys sharing images of girls they once liked. Pubic shame is a highly destructive tool and many adults don’t realize the role they are playing in conditioning their youth in this way of thinking and in turn causing trauma for them and others.

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ASK A BLACK MAN SEASON 2 #FATHERHOOD EPISODE – [SAMURAI EXTENSION]

ASK A BLACK MAN SEASON 2 #FATHERHOOD EPISODE – [SAMURAI EXTENSION]

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Hoping that the week has been good to you all. This week we have a straight candid discussion about a number of the thoughts, concerns and ideologies that go into Fatherhood. The #AskABlackMan panel opens up about their feelings as fathers and how they felting entering that role. Check out the video After the jump than keep heading down for my statement on the importance of Fatherhood.

 

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Aim Straight On Social Media If You Want To Be Listened To

Aim Straight On Social Media If You Want To Be Listened To

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There are so many worthy causes and good intentions that get spoiled by horrible aim and poor social media execution. Yes, the way a message is delivered plays a big part in how it’s received, regardless of if you like it or not. What do I mean? In an age where everyone shoots out their personal views and opinions, often times it’s frustrating when I see folk with truly good views and solid missions not get the support they genuinely deserve. This happens because many people don’t know how to articulate the meat of their position without the extreme, over the top generalizing of the listening population. Messages need to be able to strike at the guilty without the collateral damage of hitting those that may actually be on your side.

Social Media for all its benefits continuously shows how difficult it is for people to agree with each other. You can look at so many of the topics currently being discussed and see how better execution would eliminate so much of the unconstructive chatter.  People argue back and forth over IG images of breastfeeding parents and the convo rarely ends up being about the main topic. It’ll be about attention seeking and sexuality, etc,etc…all because the message that was attempted to be sent was done poorly. If you want to engage people about a serious matter that an IG selfie may need some more context to properly make the point since many people who have no issue with public breastfeeding still see exposing this act via social media as a bit of over sharing. And this than clouds the primary issue.

I’ve asked people and spoken to folk about the “Don’t tell me to Smile” campaign. I don’t know anyone that thinks street harassment is good. That seems like a pretty common stance but so many people are delivering that message not as the need to respect the right of a woman to her space and right to decline your advances but as a pure anti social approach to people. Is a smile now an evil thing? Well it depends on how the interaction occurs I guess. We’ve been taught since childhood that projecting a smile is a good thing. If you elect to ice grill the world today you have that right but it’s not a free pass to be disrespectful to a person who hasn’t disrespected you. It’s like assuming a person has ill intentions so you preemptively lash out at them to be safe. It’s resulted in various men I know simply deciding to keep quiet and to themselves to play it safe. That’s not how we should be living.

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There are a number of issues I can elaborate on featuring men,women, race, class, etc that miss the mark because we get sucked into the classic divide and blame game. Folk get so busy attacking people instead of attacking problems. I get it. It’s easier to blame than to build. If you see a problem that needs to have attention brought to it then do that. It’s the sledge-hammer vs the scalpel mentality. Anyone can swing a hammer but to cut precisely at the problem area takes way more skill and planning. In truth it’s difficult for many to get out of their feelings far enough to focus on the execution of what they want to see accomplished. There are many things I don’t like but I know if I’m going to make progress towards change I can’t be the ranting raving Black Man no matter how justified it is.

Via social media and technology wr have the tools to make change in this world, but that’s only if we get out of our own way long enough to really address our issues. Let’s slow down, yet a moment before pushing the SEND button to see if what we’re putting out and how we’re communicating truly serves the greater good.

Jason Francis | The Social Media Samurai

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