Already this summer may go down as one of the most eventful periods in my life. It started out with me celebrating the first birthday of my son Max. Not to be outdone, the following weekend I saw my brother become a husband. Witnessing the marriage of my little brother, as his best man, in front of our family was probably one of the most emotional moments of my life. So between that and the one-year celebration of my son, it’s been quite a summer thus far. With that said there’s been a lot of reflection a lot of introspective days just thinking about where I am where my family has come from and where we’re going. Knowing everything that emotionally struck me when I found out I was about to be a father to where I am today has been quite a path traveled.
With that said there’s been a lot of reflection, a lot of introspective days just thinking about where I am where my family has come from and where we’re going. Knowing everything that emotionally struck me when I found out I was going to be a father to be where I am today is a major step. In conjunction with that seeing where my brother is at has made me so happy and so proud of everything that he has accomplished.
Interestingly enough, the announcement to my parents that I would be expecting a child and the announcement from my brother that his girlfriend had accepted his proposal all happened within the same November week back in 2015. So to have the wedding and Max’s birthday fall within a week of each other was kind of interesting and pretty cool. I say that now as I think back to the same younger brother who I used to play video games with, play ninja tag and get into fights with, to now seeing him as a grown man and myself now as a father is just a testament to the power of family.
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I have always said that nothing matters more to me and nothing is more important than family. It is a foundation that not only holds me together in some of my weaker moments but is the foundation that I plan on building and raising my son upon. It’s something that I’m still trying to capture in words right now, where I am where the time has gone and yet almost feeling like we are all at a point of new beginnings. I’m in the early stages of life within Parenthood and now my brother is embarking on the journey of marriage. It really is a brand new world. I look forward to what it will mean for him and I look forward to the life that I’m going to craft out for myself and my son.
ASK A BLACK MAN SEASON 2 WRAP UP [SAMURAI EXTENSION]
As quick as it came it’s now a wrap for season 2 of Madame Noire’s #AskABlackMan. 6 weeks of conversation and topic discussion has gone down and now I hope I lot of these chats go on in your own homes, relationship, etc…. Communication is at the heart of so many of our issues. Do we have the patient and determination to get it right? I like to think so.
Below you can see my final thoughts on this great experience. Underneath the video is a link to allow you to check out the entire Season 2 of Ask A Black Man.
ASK A BLACK MAN SEASON 2 #MARRIAGE EPISODE – [SAMURAI EXTENSION]
TGIF from the Social Media Samurai. It’s that time again where we check in on the ongoing #AskABlackMan series. This episode brings a very important matter to the table. The guys are talking marriage and I know this is something a lot of ladies are curious about. Do men actually want to get married? How do you define “Head of Household”? These topics and more are on deck so get comfortable and check it out. After that check out my thoughts and views on marriage as well.
ASK A BLACK MAN SEASON 3 #SEX EPISODE – [SAMURAI EXTENSION]
Things are getting hotter as the topic turns to #sex this week on #AskABlackMan. The crew is talking turns on, turn offs, control and a lot more. I know everyone has tons of things to say on this topic. How often do you get to sit in on a group of guys talking about sex? Will it be what you think it would be?
Relationships, man and woman, it’s what dominates our off line and on line conversations. There are things we like and look forward to and there are things that have pained us. Ideally these hurtful experiences are teaching points for us to grow on and do better in the future. Growing up I went though the usual phases and issues. There was the “no one finds me attractive” stage. Then there was the “ladies that would leave me for questionable others” stage. Then as a single man I’ve maintained the fear/concern of having a child outside of a marriage. Each of these things has factored into how I interact with women on one level or another. That just leaves my ultimate fear. What scares me the most is the idea of getting married and seeing it end in divorce.
For all the back and forth, all the heart breaks, first kisses and everything else that comes with the dance of man and woman interaction, at some point I want to get to that place of certainty. The idea of proposing is something exciting to me. The thought of a unified life and building a family are very appealing to me. Everything that I’ve become as a man links back to the loving marriage I’ve been raised around. So, in a world with divorce rates keep moving upward I can’t help but think of the “what if” that is divorce.
I was asked this question on Twitter a few months ago. Do I consider divorce a failure? My answer was an resounding yes. Now understand, this is all in relation to me and how I view my life. I know many people whose lives became much better after divorce, but for me in this moment I don’t view it like that. That period that I’m in now allows me to make mistakes in selection. Dating, socializing, whatever you want to call is the process to eventually get to marriage by finding that right partner. Marriage isn’t supposed to be easy so I know there will be rough periods but for me to have someone I love and elected to enter into marriage with and then get to a point of calling for divorce would hit me as a totally failure of who I am. It would feel like a strike against my feelings and my ability to identity whats right for me. I speak often about how it seems folk have become incredibly bad judges of character so the idea of that kind of union failing would be hell to me.
Marriage has always been a one shot deal for me. I guess that’s why I’m in no real rush presently while getting certain things in order. There clearly will be a lot riding on this when that time comes. Until then I try to live life and learn the needed lessons to make my future work.
This past week I came across a few conversations that were centered around the topic of engagement rings. How does the appearance and worth relate to the man who presented it and the quality relationship it represents. It was very interesting to hear the varying views. Now for you to have proper context of the decisions you have to understand that they originated from a picture that a newly engaged woman posted showing the ring she had received. You can see the ring after the jump. What followed were a number of great points, history I wasn’t aware of and a glimpse into maybe why so many of our relationships aren’t working. Check out the ring and let’s talk about this a little.