Is It Really Better To Have Loved And Lost???

 Is It Really Better To Have Loved And Lost???

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One of the most famous relationship quotes ever says “it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.” Personally I think that is total b.s. The thinking behind this is that the experience itself of being in love is so strong and wonderful that even after it has left and faded away, the memory of it is worth having in spite of the pains you may be dealing with in its aftermath.

I don’t fully agree with that. Looking at it from the here and now, I have to wonder if reflecting on love lost makes up for the pain of dealing with lost love. If you were in a place where you and a significant other we’re happy and now you are not, does memory ease your present day condition? I think it actually adds to the hurt. You can’t hurt from loss if you never had the feeling to begin with. How do you miss millions of dollars if you’ve never had it? You can imagine and envision it but it’s not genuinely missed.

Love is felt deeply and is specifically personal to the individual you were involved with. It is far greater than mere speculation of what it may be. Another factor which throws even more salt in the wounds is the ever seeing eye of the Internet. It’s one thing to miss or want the attention of a former lover but you now can find yourself in the position to witness just what and who is holding their attention. If past relations have ended on good terms then you may still be in contact with this person. You may take the mature high road and not acknowledge it but that can also be a continuous reminder of what was and what likely never will be again.

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All these various potential emotional triggers exist when you’ve loved someone. For the sake of living a well-balanced life I hope love is something we all experience but from the stand point of pain prevention you’re better off without it. Go get a puppy or something.

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Social Media Injects “Look At Us” Reflexes into Relationships

Social Media Injects “Look At Us” Reflexes into Relationships

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It’s been researched and studied that we have various social needs. After we handle our base survival needs of food, shelter and sex we hit that level of social importance where our interaction with people factors into how we see and value our life experience. I study and observe behavior and I’m curious about a certain trend that may be evolving into an instinctual reflex action. I refer to it as the “did you miss me” or “look at us” effect. The need to share private moments framed specifically around informing your friends, followers, etc who you’re intimately with at a given time. What is the thought process behind this? Is it even thought before hand or is it just a new social media driven impulse?

Some people think love and affection are to be shared. Some say it should be private and concealed to the people involved. What’s the balance? What’s the gain of it all? If you are out enjoying the company of your special person/person of the moment/whatever, what makes you stop and say “I need all of you who are not here with me to know that I’m not alone?” It may sound crazy when you step back and look at it outside of the emotional element but essentially that is what is being done. What is the desired result of the indirectly direct dinner shot that shows 2 glasses, or the in bed with someone you can’t see them picture.

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As a culture that is quick to jump on celebrities that “over share” their relationships can we be honest and admit many of us essentially do the same things just on a smaller scale?

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Personally I’ve always respected love. Not just for what it is but for the power it has and what that power does to people’s process of thinking. I often ask why negativity is shared at such a high rate on these Internets and where the positivity is to balance it? So it may seem funny to question the sharing of what is typically a beautiful thing. Yet depending upon context and true intentions to the matter, sharing a good thing can become negative when its desired results are shaky and disingenuous. Share because your happy and thankful. Don’t share seeking likes and comments. Don’t confirm your emotional position through the reactions of others. It’s crystal clear when that is the motive and truthfully it takes away from what should be a great thing and it genuinely will turn people away from you.

Is there really such a thing as doing a relationship the “right way” online? If so what is that? What are some good & bad examples of this?

Personally its like I said in a previous post, social media was made for relationships but relationships were not made for social media.

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Marvel Unveils “Phase 3” with Long Awaited Black Panther Film

Marvel Unveils Long Awaited Black Panther Film – Will This Finally Bring Change?

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The Tricks and Treats don’t get going until this Friday but Marvel president Kevin Feige decided to let a gang of blockbuster treats loose on the public at the special Marvel Live event at Disney’s El Captain Theatre in Hollywood , Ca yesterday. Reaching all the way out to 2019, Marvel made is cinematic plans known for its Phase 3 round of films. Breaking the 6 movie per phase outline that had been in place, Phase 3 is packed with 9 projects. We will see the return of Captain America and Thor along with a Guardians of the Galaxy sequel. The Avengers will top off the Phase with “Infinity War Part 1 & 2 in 18′ and 19” respectively. In addition to the familiar faces from the past films, Marvel is releasing new character works with Dr Strange, Captain Marvel, Inhumans and the much anticipated, highly demanded Black Panther.

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This signals the first solo feature films for a woman and a person person of color in the Marvel universe since Elektra and Blade. The announcement of an official Black Panther movie is the answer to requests that have existed since Marvel took to the big screen to reintroduce its characters a decade ago. Black Panther fans and fellow creators of ethnic characters have longed for the day where representation of them was done right on the biggest of stages. Now as the plots of all the respect franchises prepare to converge, T’Challa the Ruler of Wakanda is being thrust right into the center of things. As one of the most important characters in Marvel it would have been a total injustice not to make this movie, but as a black fictional writer myself I can speak to the skepticism that was felt every time we heard a Black Panther movie rumor.

Black comic fans watched as DC elected not to stick with a Green Lantern story line that featured John Stewart but rather follow the Hal Jordan plot origin. This was in spite of the fact that most people, especially the kids, were more familiar with Stewart due to his role in the highly acclaimed Justice League animated series. If it wasn’t last-minute changes of heart, Black characters were often presented with some type of flaw that kept them from being seen as completely human. They were malcontent drunks like Hancock, laughable buffoons like Handy Man or Meteor Man or the undead/semi living like Spawn or Blade. We couldn’t just get  a strong, attractive, intelligent leading character.

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Chadwick Boseman who is most own for his portrayal of Jackie Robinson will take on the huge responsibility of bringing the Panther to life. The success of the BP flim will have far-reaching ramifications beyond just Marvel’s bottom line. There is a gigantic community of comic loyalists who as people of color want to see what the Panther represents displayed to the masses. There are writers and content creators who are still getting told from the larger businesses that “black heroes don’t sell”. And most simply there are kids who want to see movies with lead stars that look like them.

After hearing Marvel’s Co-President Louis D’Esposit, following a Comic Con 3 yrs ago, I seriously doubted that this movie would ever get off the ground.

“He has a lot of the same characteristics of a Captain America: great character, good values… But it’s a little more difficult, maybe, creating [a world like Wakanda]. It’s always easier basing it here. For instance, ‘Iron Man 3’ is rooted right here in Los Angeles and New York. When you bring in other worlds, you’re always faced with those difficulties.” – D’Espoit on the “Difficulties” of making BP 

Not long after releasing Thor to record attendance with its completely fictional and man-made environments this man looked us all in the face and lied horribly. Yet, years later here we are.

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I have confidence in the team that Marvel has working on their movies and I see no reason to doubt that T’Challa’s introduction into the Marvel cinematic universe will be anything short of amazing. Hopefully with his emergence into the mainstream people will look on and ask will we now see more characters of color stepping out to hold down their own franchise brands? Will we finally see someone from the vast independent comic circuit strike success in crossing over into a lead role. Will the diverse range and scope of our people be given the fair chance to showcase itself.

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A Weekend Away In Washington DC with Nomadness & Megabus

A Weekend Away In Washington DC with Nomadness & Megabus

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The cooler temperatures were not going to slow me down as this past weekend as I took a short trip down I-95 to Washington, DC. As you may imagine megabus.com was my transportation option of choice for this short road trip. Those of you familiar with my earlier posts know my affinity for megabus.com. In comparison to my summer travels where I was working 100% digitally, I’ve recently dived into some new work that has tightened up my schedule a bit. That just means that when I elect to take a public transportation service they have to be on top of their game as my time is more measured.

My ride down to DC allowed me to catch up on some much needed sleep. The deep recline of that megabus seat had me in dream land before we had pulled out of the Manhattan. A 4 1/2 hour ride didn’t seem that long at all. What my extended nap meant was that I would be all rested for my DC weekend.  The people were out for all the events of  Howard homecoming weekend. The energy in the city was great and y’all the HU spirit was in full force many of my Nomadness Tribe members were not to far off in Airy, Maryland for the Autumn Reggae Wine Fest. Great food, great drink and great music was the theme of the weekend.

After the festivities of Saturday I met more of the Tribe for an incredible brunch at the Washington Plaza hotel. After 2 plus hours of breaking bread, the remaining Tribe members found  a local bar to take in some Sunday afternoon football.

Just some of my @nomadnesstribe fed and full at Washington Plaza. #Nomadness #DC

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When the final whistle sounded it was about that time to start my preparation for the ride home. As I mentioned earlier I’m in the midst of some new work so needed megabus to be on point time wise. I’d be going straight to the office once I arrived in Manhattan. My concerns were put to rest at the bus left Union Station on time and returned me to NYC with enough time to get breakfast before getting a jump on work.

Megabus.com wins with me because it’s schedule and consistency can be so easily plugged into my schedule without a hitch. Hopefully I have get some more bus tribes in before the snows of Winter arrive. Maybe I’ll let megabus.com take me somewhere warm once those temps drop.

 

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Hennypalooza Hits DC For HU Homecoming Full of Surprises

Hennypalooza Hits DC For HU Homecoming Full of Surprises

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This past weekend saw another edition of the infamous Hennypalooza. Back in 2013 I was introduced to this party and since then the stand up nature of the people behind it and the quality of the events have made me a solid supporter of the movement. With Howard Homecoming already bringing a high level of energy to the city of Washington DC, Hennypalooza dropped into town to put the proverbial cherry on top.

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The HP crew took the art space Blind Whino which I didn’t realize until afterwards was a remodeled church, turned it into the party of the weekend and the best Hennypalooza to date. That’s a big claim to make for an event that was seen massive success throughout NYC and across the border in Toronto. The legendary all Henny bars were flowing and good music was steady pumping through the building courtesy of DJ Genius in HD, Austin Millz & Meka of 2 Dope Boyz. HP’s regular host and Howard University Alumni Lowkey held it down as always keeping the crowd engaged with everything that was going on.

What gave this Hennypalooza an extra shot in the arm were the surprise appearances and performances of Pusha T and Wale. With the classic house party vibe that HP looks to set you dont come in expecting artists to hit the stage but that’s what the people got!

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Hennypalooza has NEVER failed to impress me. On both the entertainment level and the maturity of the crowds Kam’s Cognac creation continues to set the bar of what a grown and sexy Hip Hop function should be. As it stands this weekend appears to be the last Hennypalooza for the year 2014. If this holds up to be true then it was quite a way to cap off a massive year for the HP crew, NY to TDOT back to NY and DC for the finisher.  I’d bet that the 2015 is going to take this franchise to the another level of enjoyment.

 

 

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Is Social Media Acceptable in the Workplace?

Is Social Media Acceptable in the Workplace?

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No other aspect of life is forcing change like the continued growth of social media. While many have caught on to the value of this digital tool there are those that are still playing catch up in how to best manage and utilize it. One of the places where I see the most interesting tug of war is in the office workplace. You would be surprised at the companies that have no real social media policy in place. Email policies and general internet guidelines are pretty common place but social media now exists as a world of its own within the Internet structure. The way it has woven itself into our lives actually has earned it a degree of acceptance beyond basic online usage.

Personally this is truly where the ultimate balance of Jason the mild-mannered 9-5 Human Resources worker and the Social Media Samurai exists. One of my personal rules when I take on a new gig is to check for the companies social media and internet policies. It doesn’t really affect me too much directly but I like to know how well these people get it. Social media is as much a news media tool as it is platform for socializing. It’s as much a professional utility as it is a source of entertainment. It connects us to the entire world and if you really want my honest opinion on it, most jobs don’t pay enough to validate you cutting yourself off from the world for 8 + hours a day.

Now I understand that from the employers position you don’t want employees distracted with the endless amounts of stimuli that social media provides. I’ve always been a fan of responsible ownership vs broad generic restriction. What I mean is that yes you block certain site from being accessible, which isn’t a bad thing in many cases, but keep in mind that with smart phones and tablets everyone has a computer on them anyway that you can’t restrict. It’s their property. My feeling is that in clear policy you state that you understand the importance that social media now has in the world and that you trust your employees to be responsible and accountable for their social media activity. People are hired to do a job and do so in a professional manner. If those goals are being met then keep that access open.

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Today’s business world needs skilled multitasking individuals. If an employee does not show the ability to get work done than they should have their personal access restricted. This should be an individual issue and not an overall policy. Digital privacy is a bigger issue in some industries more so then others and understandably there are best practices that they must imply but generally I think most offices can exist being social media friendly.

Essentially the understanding needs to be that the older mind sets of restricting emails and internet are long gone. We are all connected whether you like it or not. Your only option is to adapt to it. It speaks volumes about the business that can take innovation and incorporate it effectively into its culture rather than just shut it down because it requires them to apply change to the status quo.

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SABIT NYC PHOTOSHOOT FT. Maria “My My” Myraine

SABIT NYC PHOTOSHOOT FT. Maria “My My” Myraine

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From the mind of Shoichi Amemiya, Sabit NYC has grown over past 10 years into a staple within the Urban street wear scene both locally and internationally.

What makes SABIT NYC stand out, are the prevalent Japanese design influences that Shoichi infuses throughout the collection. Amemiya expresses “It almost makes feel like you can fit in at any party in downtown Tokyo!” Quite like SABIT’s name (meaning “the best part of the song” or “the hook”) SABIT NYC continues to “hook” the Fashionista on a global scale.

Recently the Sabit NYC crew linked up with Indie PR manager and online personality Maria Myraine aka “My My”  to create some dope images highlighting some new Sabit NYC pieces. Readers may remember the first part of my interview with My My so you know she’s money in front of the camera.

Check out the images below and stay tuned as the 2nd half of that interview will be dropping soon.

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Social Media Was Made For Relationships But Relationships Weren’t Made For Social Media.

Social Media Was Made For Relationships But Relationships Weren’t Made For Social Media.

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The special moments, the surprises, the frustrations and heartache of a relationship truthfully provide the best fodder for the social media driven age we live in. Everything that society reacts to we find in abundance in relationships. From the sweet and dreamy honeymoon phases that can plaster our timelines to the struggles and public break ups that you saw coming a mile away, the purpose of social media networks are brilliantly fulfilled when couples submit their personal lives to the Internets, It’s great for the clicks but not so much for the relationship itself. That’s simply not what relationships were made for.

Social media is a tool for public exposure, be it business or personal it was created to open yourself up to as many people as possible. Limitless networking and outward reach.  A relationship is the building of a connection between two people. Learning the things that make your partner tick and seeing just how strong the connection between the two of you is. That’s not taking into account the input and influence of friends and family which can often be a stumbling block of the relationship.

Think about it for a moment. What do we as people do that ever succeeds under the weight of massive outside opinion and interjection? As I and many of my peers go through life the consistent lesson is that you have to remove clutter and excessive from your life to improve progression. Why relationships be any different? Contrary to what many people try to tell themselves and regardless of if you invite it or not, sharing your life in a public space is an indirect invitation to outside commentary.

Even in the construction on a today’s social sites you see the evolution of what is and isn’t included anymore. Remember those notorious visitor logs from Myspace and Blackplanet. You don’t see anything like that on Facebook. It was realized that the public doesn’t need ALL the information out there. Knowing every person that viewed your page kills off the bit of mystery needed to keep “social” element active.

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Some folk do succeed in finding a balance in sharing select moments while keeping the majority of their relationships to themselves. Many others though do not. We’re learning on the job with this online stuff. Just what is too much? Not too much for the opinion of others but at what point are you sabotaging yourself? When are you short-changing the privacy you and your mate need to learn each other by delivering play-by-play updates for the masses?

The same things that can greatly imbalance our personal relations are exactly what keep the Internets interested. So which one matters more to you?

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Whiteness Project – Will It Result In Anything We Didn’t Know Already?

Whiteness Project – Will It Result In Anything We Didn’t Know Already?

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I’m big on opinions, viewpoints and perspectives. I don’t get on these Internets to convince people who I’m right about anything and I don’t lose sleep over someone disagreeing with me. That’s exactly why I’m very interested in seeing what comes from this Whiteness Project.

People are predictable so I already see the tidal wave of reactions that will come from this, but I think it’s long over due. Every element of society should be heard in all it’s unfiltered politically incorrect glory. CNN has given us all these Black on America programs so it was only a matter of time before this happened.

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Social Samurai Media Skills: How To Rant Like A Champ

Social Media Samurai Skills: How To Rant Like A Champ

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The reality of social media for most people is that it is an almost instantaneous conduit from the brain to the world. People don’t hesitate to express exactly what is on their mind that second. Think it, Post it is the motto for many. Generally speaking the everyday consumer can get away with that. If you work a regular job, assuming you don’t say anything extreme and over the line, a twitter rant vs the company that over charged you won’t result in any negative repercussions. In fact the sudden bad press via social media could actually expedite matters, but if you make your name and money on social media you have to be that much more careful. You may be justified in your feelings but a savage digital temper tantrum could have long-lasting effects to hurt you more in the big picture.

As frustrating as I’m sure it is for some, people depending on the market you are dealing with the IDGAF approach to a site like Twitter may not be the best way to vent when a business does you wrong. Just this morning I had to stop take a few deep breaths and cunt to 10 before I hopped online. I knew I was going to voice my opinions but I needed that voice to be clear and concise vs loud and scattered. I had an issue during my morning commute that in my eyes highlighted some issues many of us in NYC have to deal with.


**click here for the 1st in the series of tweets from earlier**

What I had to remind myself is that this is not just me screaming in my own head other people will see this. Prospective clientele and associates will see this. Even in my anger I have to get across a level of professionalism. I don’t want people I may do business with in the future thinking “wow he’s unstable and if I do the slightest thing wrong he’ll try to embarrass me online.” From a professional standpoint you rant publicly to bring attention to a wrong. Ideally it is a wrong that has afflicted others. You complaining about something that is 100% unique to you is ok but when it’s something you know a vast number of people experience than you’re no longer just ranting but you’re the voice of the people.

Rant Rules

  1. You’re probably mad at a number of things so focus on 1-2 core points. If it’s customer service stay on that don’t jump to everything that this brand has done to bother you.
  2. Don’t insult or name call. Express the issue without crossing the line of respect. This gives you credibility and will entice people to really listen to you.
  3. Restate your core issue in a manner that lets the offending party know what you expect as acceptable service. You may or may not get a reply but stating what you expect gives the brand a direction to go in if they are listening.
  4. Overall keep it direct and not too long. No one is going to read you posting for 40 mins straight over this. Get in, say what you need to say and get back out.

It’s not all peaches and cream on these Internets. I know some people may be scratching their heads about this post but trust me when I say a number of people out there need this. Some personalities aren’t built to keep quiet, so if you’re dead set on venting to the digital world then the next best thing is to make sure you don’t say anything you’ll regret later.

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