Just Because I Mute You Doesn’t Mean We’re Not Friends

Just Because I Mute You Doesn’t Mean We’re Not Friends

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With the exception of a handful of people the vast majority of our communication seems to happen via social media. It may be on a desk top, lap top or more and more on a mobile device. These are the tools that are connecting us. With sites such as Facebook, Twitter and IG setting the communicative tone for so many people there’s a new reality that many of us have become aware of and many struggle to figure manage. This issue is what I call “Friend Filter” and it can often be a vital tool in the new age friendship.

Now that we “follow” people 24/7 in the digital space we give up a degree of immediate control over what we are exposed to. We navigate timeline and news feed where we never know what we are going to be exposed. The quality of the folk we follow defines the general type of content we’ll be exposed too. It’s people patterns, after a while you know who is who and what certain people are likely to post up for the Internets. I personally feel I have a nice mix but there are still periods where folk get in a zone of sharing thing I not only have no interest in but it’s just annoying. If this is coming from a friend it apparently causes a dilemma for some folk.

Not too long ago I was asked “Is it messed up to mute or block a friend online?” My reply came pretty fast. “No, not at all.” Now let me add some context. I don’t block people I’m actually cool with. I don’t get into many issues with folk online. I’ve maybe blocked 5 or 6 people ever and it was always a stranger reaching out to argue over nothing…..usually sports related. To me a block equals I never want to see or hear from you again. On the other hand mute equals I don’t want to hear/see what you’re sharing at this specific period of time. There’s NOTHING wrong with that. People that you love with all your heart can still annoy you. I assume that I annoy folk at times. It’s what humans do. You may be gushing on and on about your relationship, you may be rambling about side chicks, you might be on a social or political soap box, there’s any possible number of subjects that my make me or anyone else turn off your feed. Think back to how we grew up. You were with your good friends all the time. Fights happened often because we don’t always agree. Now that distance is such a factor in our communications you can avoid fights by just filtering what you are exposed to.

Everyone has the right to say what they want so telling a person to stop posting something never really works. Leverage the things you have control over. Watch what you take into your system vs trying to dictate what others create. Being 100% honest I told a friend before that I had to mute her. She wasn’t mad and actually admitted that from the outside looking in she probably would have muted herself too. We’re still learning how to live with this new degree of free communication so don’t feel bad if you have to put someone on a time out. Your personal sanity and friendships will be better off for it.

 

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Nas Creates Scholarship Fund to Help Students Transition From College

Nas Creates Scholarship Fund to Help Students Transition From College

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It’s been a very busy and productive time for Nasir Jones on the academics side of things. While the Hip Hop community has been in full celebration mode for the 20th anniversary of Illmatic, Nas has been growing his relationship with Harvard and speaking at schools about his story and overall value of Hip Hop and story telling. Now we can add Scholarships to the collegiate good deeds on Nas’ rap sheet. As I or any of my peers can tell you that step from college into the “real world” can be a rough one  and apparently Nas is looking to help ease that transition.

Nas has linked up with Koru, a company out of Seattle that specializes in post college assistance. Nas has invested an initial $100,000 into the scholarship and will be involved personally with coaching the first 10 students to receive the award. Regarding is involvement in this vital stage of adult development Nas had the following to say.

“I’m inspired to support Koru participants because I know how hard it can be to carve out your path and purpose in life. It takes conviction, hard work and the right network. The young people going through Koru are gritty, book smart and street smart. The Koru program gives them an opportunity to put those smarts to work. I can’t wait to work directly with them and share what I’ve learned through my own life experiences.”

The pairing of Nas and Koru was the result of a mutual friend of the legendary MC and Koru’s founder Kristen Hamilton.

“What companies are looking for,” Ms. Hamilton said, “is for people with the capacity to come up against a wall and think about what they’ll do when they get through it or around it rather than about how thick the wall is, or how challenging. This has been Nas’ reality. He didn’t go to college–he studied in the school of the real world, and became a successful artist and businessperson. He didn’t have his way paved for him. He embodies the notion of grit. So we started talking about how we could work together.”

It’s nice to get reminders that Hip Hop truly does have heart.

 

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Is the Male Nerd Under Dog A Myth?

Is the Male Nerd Under Dog A Myth?

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As we once again deal with a horrible murderous incident in this nation we’re hearing a lot of the recently championed terms in mainstream conversation. Misogyny, Rape Culture, Entitlement, etc,etc…..I doubt any of you are foreign to these terms. The conversation continues as men and women struggle to understand each other on a broad scale. Instead of the usual super alpha male run the world narrative we find ourselves now looking at the flip side of that story. The geek, the nerd, the unpopular underdog that we have for years rooted for my not be such a supportable character? Or is he?

I had a chat with a guy yesterday that said he would no longer use the term “nice guy” . Not that he would regularly use it to describe himself but he said it just felt dirty to him. That’s so odd to me but I get it. I have no problem with the term but I get where he’s coming from. I see many link the term “nice guy” to “friend zone” to the concept of entitlement that being nice is supposed to equal female attraction. To me that’s not a bad idea in principal. Who really stands up and says “I don’t really want a nice person I’d rather interact with a jerk.” Although from my own observations that may be the case but on it’s most basic level we do want that in a partner. The issue is when basic human desire for companionship crosses the line to the point of feeling you are owed something. Your not, no one is.

Personally I find that all very interesting because I connect to it so much. I was and still am very much a nerd and a geek. I understand the under dog role. I was there. I get loneliness and questioning why things happen how they do. Again its human nature and not something to be criminalized BUT at no point was I mad at people, at no point did I feel I was owed something for being nice and at no point did I feel a need to do over the top things to trick ladies into dealing with me. Many women say they want a guy that doesn’t easily give up and fights for what he wants. So, at what point does that “fight” go too far?

As I watch an army of people discuss this topic, hastags at the ready, I can say that some folk articulate this better then others but this following passage from Arthur Chu does a very good job.

Fixating on a woman from afar and then refusing to give up when she acts like she’s not interested is, generally, something that ends badly for everyone involved. But it’s a narrative that nerds and nerd media kept repeating.

I’m not breaking new ground by saying this. It’s been said very well over and over and over again.

And I’m not condemning guys who get frustrated, or who have unrequited crushes. And I’m not condemning any of these shows or movies.

And yet…

……how it feels to be chased by a real-life Steve Urkel, being harassed, accosted, ambushed in public places, have your boyfriend “challenged” and having all rejection met with a cheerful “I’m wearing you down!

No, I’m not saying most frustrated nerdy guys are rapists or potential rapists. I’m certainly not saying they’re all potential mass murderers. I’m not saying that most lonely men who put women up on pedestals will turn on them with hostility and rage once they get frustrated enough.

But I have known nerdy male stalkers, and, yes, nerdy male rapists. I’ve known situations where I knew something was going on but didn’t say anything— “

This nation has problems and I’m not sure just how likely we are to fix them. I think we can but I worry about the way we communicate with each other. We finger point and blame to a point where the original goal and objective gets lost. Any improvement in male/female interactions requires that we both to be on the same page. Women should have the full power over their lives to do what they want and men shouldn’t have to walk on egg shells to be there for them. Maybe I live a rare existence but peaceful living with women hasn’t been that difficult. It shouldn’t be that difficult.

The quotes above came from “Your Princess Is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerds” which you can click to read in it’s entirety. It’s well worth it.

Nipsey Husstle Delivers on His #Proud2Pay Private Show

Nipsey Husstle Delivers on His #Proud2Pay Private Show

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Nipsey Hussle, one of the current young voices of the West coast stepped away from traditional marketing concepts last year with the release of his last project Crenshaw. Putting brand loyalty over base quantity, Hussle created an exclusive mixtape #Pround2Pay package for the price of $100. The idea was a success that included a major cosign from Jay-Z. Part of that package was a special secret show for those that bought in. Nipsey is a man of his word and the event when down recently. For those that were in the building here is solid recap of the performance.

 

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Blogging For Business w/ Experian (Storify)

Blogging For Business w/ Experian  (Storify)

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I was really on top of my game last week if I do say so myself. In the midst of Internet Week I took some time to guest host the weekly Twitter #MarketingChat held by Experian. It’s an hour to share business tips and answer questions about various types of marketing. The subject of conversation was blogging for business. Social media is changing the way business is done and doing it right is a serious matter. I honestly had a lot of fun answering questions and sharing some of my personal views and how to blog successfully.

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Images of Internet Week NYC 2014

Images of Internet Week NYC 2014

Internet weekLast week was a collection of events focused around the growth and expansion of the Internet. From social responsibility to next level entertainment there was something for everyone to take in. You’ll see me posting on a few of the various sessions and panels I covered in the upcoming days. For now I want to share some of the sights and sounds of the week that was Internet Week 2014!!!

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Nitty Scott Drops The Art of Chill [Mixtape]

 Nitty Scott Drops The Art of Chill [Mixtape]

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Giving you some quality cool out music for the extended weekend and beyond Nitty Scott MC welcomes you into her world with this new mixtape The Art of Chill. I’ve spoken previously of the journey that this Florida born MC is currently on and with the release of The Art of Chill you get a much deeper look into where this young woman is heading.

“I was very naïve in the way I thought I could just come to this big city, meet the right people, and it would just happen,” Scott says now. “It’s obviously not that simple — the city is filled with transplants trying to make their dreams come true. The reality of the situation hit me once I got here, and I became distracted by survival, fending for myself, keeping a roof over my head, staying fed, even getting from A to B.” – Nitty Scott

Musically the trippy, smoothed out production sets the mood to really feel what Nitty is delivering. Her flow doesn’t miss a beat and re-enforces my stance that super stardom is clearly on the way for Ms Scott. Check out the stream below to hear the material then hop over to iTunes and support good music.

 

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D’Angelo Opens Up During In Depth Red Bull Academy Sit Down

D’Angelo Opens Up During In Depth Red Bull Academy Sit Down

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For many of you I nice extended Memorial Day weekend is about to kick off. If you’re not hopping in the car, train or plane take a moment to catch with 90’s R&B star D’Angelo. Earlier this week he sat with author Nelson George during Red Bull Academy’s Lecture series. We hear about D’Angelo’s instrument playing skills, classic recording sessions and much more that went into making him the artist he is and what went into constructing the classic album Voodoo.

D’Angelo speaks with a humble, low-key tone that often downplays the real accomplishments the man has stacked up. It’s a little refreshing to me in an age where brash, self promotion is the method.

The conversation is a solid 90 mins so get comfortable, bookmark this link and enjoy.

 

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Would You Hire a Social Media Samurai?

Would You Hire a Social Media Samurai?

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As I make may way about NYC for Internet Week I allow myself a little me time to get other work done and browse these Internets for any number of reasons. At one point I decided to Google Social Media Samurai just to see what pops up. As expected it’s a lot of me but there were some other things I noticed in the search. For starters I am not the only social media samurai out there. I’m the only one doing it how I do but the title is out there. In addition to that I came across a 4 year old article titled “Would You Hire A Social Media Samurai?” The woman asked the question framed around another question of what exactly is a SMS and what does one do? She seemed quite lost due to new wave of create titles that many now like you use. Well let’s chat on this a bit.

“I think I get why folks working in social media do this. They want a title that conveys the hip or cool quotient of their jobs, which they believe is much higher than a simple “consultant,” “manager” or “strategist.” Fine. I’m a “live-and-let-live” kind of person. But do they seriously think these kinds of titles are going to help them get work from suit-and-tie business types…” 

To answer that last question know I don’t think my title will add much to getting work regardless of if it’s the suit and tie crowd, tee-shirt and sneakers crowd or anyone else. What gets me work is the talent, skill and knowledge I bring to the table. Anyone looking for help that can’t get past a title to see what abilities are there will lose out. That’s a tired mindset that is failing to adapt to how the world is changing. With that being said there are issues with these grand titles.

“… Take those social-media ninjas: Ninjas were known for killing without making noise. They might be the least social people ever. Putting “ninja” on your resume might feel awesome now, but you’re going to feel stupid when someone asks you to explain it. ” – Stanchak

Throwing a catchy name on your resume can make you look very silly if it’s not something you can quantify and define in your own way. I’ve always had an appeal for Asian cultures as well as online, internet driven media. My claim of Social Media Samurai is very much about me the person as it is the technical element of the job(s) I do.

Samurai (?), usually referred to in Japanese as bushi (武士?[bu͍ꜜ.ɕi̥]) or buke (武家?), were the military nobility of medieval and early-modern Japan. According to translator William Scott Wilson: “In Chinese, the character 侍 was originally a verb meaning to wait upon or accompany persons in the upper ranks of society, and this is also true of the original term in Japanese, saburau. In both countries the terms were nominalized to mean “those who serve in close attendance to the nobility,”

That’s the definition of Samurai. In my spaces my role is that of working with and serving the advancement of a larger goal or cause. There are no nobles or royalty in the mix from Evita Robinson head of Nomadness to The Reece Brother’s, creators of The Omega Nexus, I’ve worked with many who represent brands I take pride in working for/with. The samurai label is something that I am more so then what I do.

Getting back to the title question of will anyone hire a Social Media Samurai? You damn right they will. I get that it’s not for everyone and I’m fine with that. The Internets aren’t slowing down for folk so either you adjust and advance or you get left behind. It’s on you to define your worth and value. Once you can show and prove how you can solve a business’ problems you can work with anyone.

 

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I Know It’s Early But Boondocks Has Me Nervous

I Know It’s Early But Boondocks Has Me Nervous

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Fans of the Aaron McGruder comic strip turned animated series knew to be on heightened alert for this 4th season. After an equally shocking and confusing announcement that he was no longer apart of the creative management of Boondocks, questions swirled about Aaron’s reasoning and what would become of the show. Would Boondocks lose its edge? Not the funny edge but the element of legitimately questioning the status quo. We are 4 episodes into this season and truthfully I’m nervous.

What has me uneasy is the change of perspective that the show has taken. What once was Huey’s view on a life as a social outsider has now seemingly been replaced with a more comical take on life via Grand Dad, Riley or at times just a generic 3rd person onlooker. While Huey’s presence remains, he’s now regulated to being the voice of reason that neither Riley or Grand Dad listens too. We don’t seem to get the many shows directly from Huey’s perspective. This is a theme that has continued since last season. Season 3 opened up with a the Chinese Dodge Ball episode. While it ushered in the new upgrade in animation for the show this wasn’t our usual “Fight the power!” Huey. Now it seems that the show picks a topic, issue or scandal and they poke fun at it. We get funny comedic moments and 1 liners but no real reinforcement of social commentary.

It’s funny because after the latest episode which again features Grand Dad, this time as a senior citizen gigolo, Adult Swim played one of my favorite season 1 episodes, The Passion of Reverend Ruckus. As Ruckus looks to lead a new spiritual movement against Blackness, Huey spends the entirety of the episode trying to free an innocent man, ShabazzK Berle, from Death Row. As Huey encounters obstacle after obstacle in his attempts to clear Shabazz, the climax of the episode finds Huey frustrated in the midnight hour in a field crying and praying for something to save Shabazz. It’s my favorite scene of all that of featured Huey in this series as it’s clearly his most vulnerable moment. Something about the current tone of the show makes it unlikely in my eyes that this type of moment will ever happen again.

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This isn’t the ‘ni**a’ show. I just wish we would expand the dialogue and evolve past the same conversation that we’ve had over the past 30 years about race in our country. […] I just hope to expand the dialogue and hope the show will challenge people to think about things they wouldn’t normally think about, or think about it in a very different way.

—Aaron McGruder during the series’ launch in 2005
I made a point to let this season play through before judging it. I’ll keep to my word but I would be lying if I said something doesn’t feels different. Boondocks isn’t hitting like the show that repeatedly got episodes banned for stepping on toes. We’ll see if this is just a set up for better things to come.