You Can Keep That Traveling Girl
The following poem/piece has been bouncing around the Internets for a while and I saw it a about a dozen times yesterday. I finally decided to take a look at it and I had mixed reactions to it. Take a look at the piece below then I’ll give my thoughts afterwards.
She’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell.
Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it.
Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. She wont party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.
Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.
Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.
Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing.
Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.
She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She is too independent and wont care whether you travel with her or not. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you.
So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go.
As I saw online, there are many aspects of this piece that people connect to and I get it. The travel girl = untamed, free spirit, outside of the box, etc, etc…… But there’s a one size fits all tone to this that I feel is a bit unrealistic. This applies both to the way the traveling girl is described along with the description of the men who are warned to stay back. The Traveling girl is written as almost being a directionless, goal lacking wanderer with no desire for plans or structure. Simultaneously the writer takes the familiar shots at people with “boring jobs”. This is the whole “Creative vs 9-5” narrative that I see often. The reality is that both of these types of people come in a wide array of types and styles. Many of which do actually work well with the other. Relationships are way to circumstantial to be summed up in any one shot.
This isn’t angry non-traveling guy replying to this. No, this is a man who works with, rides for and supports the biggest most progressive collective of traveling women on the planet. And I’ll let you in on something from the growing number of conversation I have with these ladies. The vast majority of them do want love and they have lived life enough to know that love can come in many packages. Often times it comes in a package they did not expect. You have to be open to this no matter what.
Just because you’re always traveling doesn’t mean your going anywhere. All movement isn’t progress. Your potential life love may be more stationary then you but making more moves than you can fathom. Then question becomes can you keep up with him? I’ve come to love the traveling women I’m now around so personally you can keep the one described in this piece.
Jason Francis | The Social MediaSamurai